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4 Steps to Build Will Power

By January 26, 2017 March 22nd, 2018 No Comments

Willpower is a fragile thing. Subjected to stress, sleep deprivation, or simple visual triggers, it disappears and our goals suffer in the face of reality.

You too have likely experienced this, along with a subsequent dose of guilt— a meltdown from your child turns into a glass of wine (or two or three) after bedtime, a late night pint of Ben & Jerry’s, and a three-hour Netflix binge — all things that felt necessary in the moment, but all working directly against your health and fitness goals.

 

It doesn’t have to be this way.

You can enhance your willpower and with it, your ability to fight temptation. To do so, you’ll look outside yourself, focusing not on your mental state, but on controlling your environment and your reaction to temptation, setting up a system that takes full advantage of the psychology of willpower.

Read on for your four-step guide on how to enhance your willpower.

Step 1: State Your Willpower Goal in Writing

The first step to maintaining willpower in the face of temptation is to clearly define what you’re trying to achieve. Too often, our goals are poorly defined and therefore unachievable. To begin, grab a pen and a piece of paper. (All the moms participating in AMC’s 60-Day Fitness Challenge wrote down their specific goals down last week.)

 

  • First, write down your general goal. For example, if I’m attempting to give up desserts, I’ll write exactly that at the top of the page: “Quit eating desserts.”
  • Next, write down exactly what this means. In my case, “No cookies, cakes, chocolate or treats of any kind at any time, regardless of circumstance.”
  • Finally, ascribe a timeframe to the goal. Keep in mind that taking small steps will aid your ability to maintain progress, so write something like: “I’ll begin by not eating any desserts at all for two weeks.”

Now, we’ve defined exactly what “maintaining willpower” means, added a timeframe to the effort, and written it down, giving tangible form to what was formerly an abstract goal. The act of writing makes the goal “real,” and therefore something you’re more likely to accomplish.

Step 2: Recognize Your Triggers

Next, recognize (and record) the circumstances that erode your willpower. These may include lack of sleep, conflict, stress, or simple physical temptation (such as the presence of candy or alcohol). When your triggers are present, you’re more likely to give in and subvert your plan.

  • On your goal sheet, write down each trigger. In the case of my dessert goal, it might look like this: “Triggers for dessert consumption: having my favorite chocolate in the house, going to parties, work/life stress, winding down in the evening.”

By acknowledging and writing down these triggers, I become more aware of their presence in my life. Combined with step three, this awareness enhances my ability to fight temptation in the moments when I’ll be most likely to trip up.

Step 3: Create Replacement Behaviors

For each trigger, list multiple behaviors that could replace the non-desired behavior. In my example, I would avoid eating sugar in the presence of my triggers by engaging in the following replacement behaviors instead:

Trigger chart2

Having multiple replacement behaviors for each trigger is important. It enables you to select the replacement that is most likely to work in any given circumstance. For instance, I may not be able to avoid bringing my kids to a birthday party, but I can eat before going to the party and focus on meeting and connecting with new people.

There is a psychological power in the replacement behavior. Instead of focusing on what you’re not going to do, you can focus on what you are going to do. This will give you an immediate sense of control as well as a different set of emotions around willpower — creating pride and empowerment rather than guilt and avoidance.

Step 4: Recognize Success

Each time you engage in a replacement behavior, give yourself credit, recording your success on your paper with a hash mark or an “x.”

This act is instrumental in reinforcing your willpower. It creates a positive feedback loop — seeing your small successes in writing will encourage you to strive for additional successes, and your willpower in the moment will become willpower for the day, the week, the month, and the year.

Additionally, recording your successes gives you something to do when you get a win (rather than something not to do, as is the case with most behavior avoidance scenarios). As was the case with replacement behaviors, action becomes more satisfying than inaction, further reinforcing progress.

 

Putting It All Together to Build Willpower

Willpower is a fragile thing — but it doesn’t have to be. Using this system will enhance and augment your mental capacities, making your resolve more durable while strengthening your ability to accomplish your goals.

The four-step system:

  1. Define your willpower goals
  2. Recognize and record your triggers
  3. Create replacement behaviors
  4. Recognize success

The system works equally as well whether you’re trying to stop a behavior or create a new one, such as an exercise habit. All you need is any piece of paper, a pen, and a quiet moment.

Take that moment now — grab a piece of paper and give it a shot. Outline your goal, your triggers, and your replacement behaviors. Put the paper in your pocket, and be ready to record your first success. With practice, you’ll find your willpower growing and your goals accomplished, moment by moment, day by day.

Do you need additional motivation or accountability to reach your fitness goals? Let Active Moms’ Club help you be the best version of yourself. AMC provides fitness for all stages of motherhood. We offer a wide range of services to meet the unique needs of Chicago mothers: prenatal and postnatal exercise classes, one-on-one personal training, fitness challenges — and most importantly, a community of support from moms just like you!

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Other related articles from Active Moms’ Club blog:

5 Tips to Create & Maintain Your Fitness Goals for 2017

10 Ways to Transform Your Body Immediately

 

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